A familiar narrative has explained things for you for so long that it has started to almost make sense. This is the way it is, and there’s no changing it. You aren’t well liked, you aren’t good enough, you are too different to fit in with other people. The exaggerated language we use in our self-talk can quickly become the beliefs that we build our lives around.

Take a moment and think about the more compassionate version of that story. Could you soften your language, so the words don’t hit as harshly? Can you view your experience from a different perspective?

You are capable of viewing your problems from a more supportive and kinder angle. Treat yourself the way you deserve, with compassion for yourself and with recognition for how far you’ve come. If the old story returns, recognize it is no longer useful and return your focus to what is.