I think it’s safe to say at some point or another, we have all been through it. And when you are in it, you definitely know it. Your mood, your thoughts, your everything is in a not so great place and the furthest thing from your mind is thinking that this is a good thing. Well what if we started to acknowledge that this moment can be a turning point or a sign that things are going to get better. To be clear this is not a ‘just think happy thoughts and fly’ kind moment, but more so that we can use our obstacles as a sign that you are going through the most difficult part of this story and it could be uphill from here. You may have taken some action to make some changes or life pushed you in this direction, but regardless this can be viewed as an opportunity that you don’t quite know the outcome of yet. Could be good, could be bad, but in this moment we can choose not to lean into the negative, and be open to what comes next.
Self compassion is about acknowledging our feelings without judgement or beating ourselves up over what we see as a failure. It is about becoming aware that it’s okay to feel lousy and that you believe things can get better once you make it through this moment. I mean you could take a different route and firmly believe that this is rock bottom and you will stay here for a long, long time, but the language we use around our experience affects how we think and what we do next. Let’s try to be different next time, give ourselves permission to feel how all of this feels, and also make space in your thoughts for belief that those good things are coming your way soon.